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Better to brag: Underestimating the risks of avoiding positive self‐disclosures in close relationships
dc.contributor.authorChan, Todd
dc.contributor.authorReese, Zachary A.
dc.contributor.authorYbarra, Oscar
dc.date.accessioned2021-10-05T15:05:30Z
dc.date.available2022-11-05 11:05:27en
dc.date.available2021-10-05T15:05:30Z
dc.date.issued2021-10
dc.identifier.citationChan, Todd; Reese, Zachary A.; Ybarra, Oscar (2021). "Better to brag: Underestimating the risks of avoiding positive self‐disclosures in close relationships." Journal of Personality (5): 1044-1061.
dc.identifier.issn0022-3506
dc.identifier.issn1467-6494
dc.identifier.urihttps://hdl.handle.net/2027.42/170209
dc.description.abstractObjectiveCapitalization, or disclosing positive news in close relationships, is interpersonally and intrapersonally beneficial and expected by relational partners. Why do some individuals avoid capitalizing? How do close relational partners react when they later discover that positive news was not directly disclosed to them?MethodWe conducted nine correlational and experimental studies using vignettes and recalled events (N = 2,177).ResultsWe find that individuals who are concerned about being seen as braggarts tend to avoid capitalizing with their close relationships even when it is likely their partner would ultimately learn of the news. Yet this concern may be relatively unwarranted and these individuals show a forecasting error: They overestimate how negatively their partner would react to disclosure and predict that their partner would react more positively if they discovered the news through external means. However,they neglect to predict that partners who later learn of the news and realize they were not disclosed toward in fact feel devalued. We discuss how this concern with bragging is linked to decreased extraversion, perspective taking, and empathy.ConclusionsUniquely in close relationships, being concerned about bragging may elicit negative relational outcomes, by hindering the positive self‐disclosures that one’s partners expect.
dc.publisherWiley Periodicals, Inc.
dc.publisherGuilford
dc.subject.othercapitalization
dc.subject.otherself‐disclosure
dc.subject.otherclose relationships
dc.subject.otherbragging
dc.titleBetter to brag: Underestimating the risks of avoiding positive self‐disclosures in close relationships
dc.typeArticle
dc.rights.robotsIndexNoFollow
dc.subject.hlbsecondlevelPsychology
dc.subject.hlbtoplevelSocial Sciences
dc.description.peerreviewedPeer Reviewed
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dc.identifier.doi10.1111/jopy.12635
dc.identifier.sourceJournal of Personality
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