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What “you” and “we” say about me: How small shifts in language reveal and empower fundamental shifts in perspective
dc.contributor.authorOrvell, Ariana
dc.contributor.authorGelman, Susan A.
dc.contributor.authorKross, Ethan
dc.date.accessioned2022-05-06T17:26:40Z
dc.date.available2023-06-06 13:26:39en
dc.date.available2022-05-06T17:26:40Z
dc.date.issued2022-05
dc.identifier.citationOrvell, Ariana; Gelman, Susan A.; Kross, Ethan (2022). "What “you” and “we” say about me: How small shifts in language reveal and empower fundamental shifts in perspective." Social and Personality Psychology Compass 16(5): n/a-n/a.
dc.identifier.issn1751-9004
dc.identifier.issn1751-9004
dc.identifier.urihttps://hdl.handle.net/2027.42/172275
dc.description.abstractOne of the most fundamental, yet often overlooked, components of language is the personal pronoun system. Pronouns reveal and empower different perspectives, providing insight into and even altering how a person is conceptualizing the self. Here, we illustrate how the pronouns “I,” “you,” and “we” can enable shifts in perspective that bring a person further from, or closer to, others. We additionally highlight the implications of these pronoun shifts on the addressee(s). We review a growing body of research that focuses on how these words can function as both windows—providing insight into the thoughts and emotions of a speaker, and levers—that can subtly alter the speaker’s and addressee(s)’ thoughts, emotions, and even behaviors, across a range of domains. We conclude by discussing possibilities for future research.
dc.publisherSocial Psychological and Personality Science
dc.publisherWiley Periodicals, Inc.
dc.titleWhat “you” and “we” say about me: How small shifts in language reveal and empower fundamental shifts in perspective
dc.typeArticle
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dc.subject.hlbsecondlevelPsychology
dc.subject.hlbtoplevelHealth Sciences
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dc.identifier.doi10.1111/spc3.12665
dc.identifier.sourceSocial and Personality Psychology Compass
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